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Barry Kolanowski Oswego life-style coach business consultant will be signing his new book “Pause:  Lessons On How Get WhYOU

Barry Kolanowski of Oswego, a life-style coach and business consultant, will be signing his new book, “Pause: Lessons On How to Get What YOU Want Out of Life," Dec. 27 in Yorkville. | Submitted Photo

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Updated: January 27, 2013 6:02AM

YORKVILLE — Patrons at Yorkville’s Rosati’s Pizza on Thursday may come away from their dining experience with something they didn’t expect — a book.

From 5 to 7 p.m. that day, the pizza parlour and restaurant at 1185 N. Bridge St. will host a book signing by Oswego author Barry Kolanowski, who will be on hand to enscribe and sell his book — “Pause: Lessons On How to Get What YOU Want Out of Life.”

Kolanowski, a member of the Yorkville Area Chamber of Commerce’s LEADS 1 group and a former minister, is the founder of The Compass Group Inc., through which he does lifestyle coaching, business consulting and motivational speaking. He also does business as Chicago Weddings, helping grooms and brides stage their special day.

T.J. Banning, franchise owner of Rosati’s, said it makes sense to have the book signing at his restaurant.

“We as a business are really involved with this community, and we have a great family atmosphere,” Banning said. “And this is a motivational book. A book signing here is good for helping to build the community.”

Although Kolanowski has written two previous books — “The Lifecycle of Business’ and “The Ceremony Planner” — he says both were to provide training materials and guides to use in his two businesses.

“Pause” is different, he said, because it’s based on a concept he developed to help people change their lives.

“This goes back to December 2008,” he said. “I was listening to people talking about New Year’s resolutions, and it dawned on me that I hadn’t done one for several years. I listened to them giving advice to people, and I thought, ‘That is so old school.’ ”

He said he realized that there is more to the story, so he began to write down why he thinks people are struggling.

“I came up with 10 reasons why people fail with their New Year’s resolutions, and why we struggle so much with change,” Kolanowski said. “It was a clarifying moment for me. I began to create a plan which my wife and I implemented in January 2009. It clarified our purpose and brought a better understanding of our relationship.”

Kolanowski said because of his plan, which wasn’t about weight loss, he lost three pants sizes. The plan also wasn’t about becoming a runner, but he and his wife ran in eight 5K races that year.

“I am healthier, happier, and it changed my life,” he said. “This focuses on the top four basics of change theory. If you do these four things, whatever your goals are, you’ll increase your chances for success.”

Kolanowski, who is self-publishing, said he gave himself a deadline of 30 days to write the book. When he sent it off to the printer on time, he said he felt a huge adrenaline rush.

“I thought, ‘It’s alive!’ I’m sure when I get the first copies in my hands, I’ll have tears in my eyes. It was a labor of love. I feel very fulfilled. I think I said everything I wanted to say.”

Kolanowski said he plans to take a break in writing before embarking on any more books. For now, he will be happy if people get inspired by his book to have a life of deeper meaning and fulfillment.

“That’s what I want,” he said. “This book not only causes you to daydream, it encourages it.”

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